IN OUR FAMILIES FOOTSTEPS
In reading over the responses about Mother’s
negative attitudes to this surgery I was wondering what
goes through mother’s minds sometimes. I have always
thought that I, in some way, broke the chain of what was
suppose to be my "heritage." You know the
saying…."Well, your grandmother was overweight and so is your
father…so you just have those genes." I always wonder if
they feel we have broken the chain and are upset with
our independence. It seems like by becoming skinny
and not fitting into the hereditary fat model, I have
stepped outside my bounds. Maybe our mother’s still care
about us so much that they mask their fear by saying
the standard…"Well, your built just like your
grandmother." <br><br>Don’t mind me….just rambling today.
Helen
May 21st, 2003 at 1:46 am
Dear Helen<br>My Mother came up with all sorts of
reasons why I shouldn’t have the surgery, and I told her
it made no difference what she thought I would still
have the surgery. She finally admitted that what she
was really afraid of was that I would Die on the
table, She even gave me my christmas gift in October. I
told her Mom you will just have to turn around and get
me something more for christmas. My sister finally
got thru to her, but she wouldn’t go to the hospital
until it was over. They are set in there ways and all
you can do is just show them you are doing it for all
the right reasons, which My Mom seen since I lost 127
lbs and kept it off for 5 yrs.