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By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Fri, 05 Sep 2003 18:27:45 +0000

DD..
My goodness words cannot express how your letter of encouragement made
me feel..thank you my dear..this is the strength I need,…thank you again..

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Fri, 05 Sep 2003 07:46:10 +0000

Dear Rosette,
Remember to be selfish. It
sounds so foolish, but you are about to take control of
your life once again so make sure you take the time
for yourself. I have a theory that we all somehow
startd to give so much to so many we forgot to take some
for ourselves. Although I am not telling you to be
totally selfish, I am telling you that you deserve to
enjoy life so do so. This is the first of many steps
you will be taking. Remember when the hard points
come up that it will be worth it. One day after the
operation when I was home and feeling more than a little
sorry for myself I did two things: one I had a good cry
and two I called my hairdresser and had my hair cut
and highlighted. It sounds so shallow and selfish but
guess what, I’ve been better ever since. I took the

time for myself and although I still am there for my
family and friends, I am there for myself as well. It’s
all ahead of you, but remember this, it will change
your life for the better. But it is a change and
change feels strange before it feels normal. You’ll do
fine. You have the spirit, you have the strength. And
now for a word that got me through the whole
procedure and am still doing so. Do you know why Bamboe is
the strongest plant material? It is because the
Bamboe plant takes years to first break through the soil
in its growing. That is because it’s strength comes
from the inside out and not the outside in. You are
changing from the inside out and I am proud of you for
having the courage to do so. God Bless you and be
strong, be you.

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Fri, 05 Sep 2003 02:25:23 +0000

thank-you Linda for understanding what I am
thinking…Most of the people I spoke to have not regretted
having the operation at all..It is nice to know that
their is a way out of this pain and maybe I will be
able to live a "normal" life…

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Thu, 04 Sep 2003 15:43:48 +0000

Hi Rosette Tex, I just read your message and had
to make sure it wasn’t me who wrote that about a
month ago. I had the surgery in October and when I lost
50lbs in the first three weeks, I panicked. All my life
I had built this wall of fat around me for
proctection and a "sense of control" - and now in a matter of
three weeks it was going away. I didn’t think it would
brother me before I had the surgery, I just wanted to
lose weight. But it did. I was very scared that all
that I was, all that I had protected, was leaving me
and I had no "control." It felt like my enormous
security blanket was snatched away. I started seeing a
therapist right after the surgery. She had a similar
surgery done 10yrs ago and we have worked through many
issues. But I still worry about my blanket and I worry

about all those "issues" I choose to bury years ago..My
therapist says that most of the issues we buried as
teenagers and young adults probably won’t brother us as
adults, especially when you go through so much just to
lose weight.

Good Luck Linda