Comments on: Crap Never Ends!

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Fri, 14 Nov 2003 17:15:16 +0000

Helen,

I was FURIOUS to read what your
doctor said to you! Why is it that so many PCP’s are
practically jealous and unsupportive of this surgery? Does
anyone know the answer to that question? I just don’t
understand it. I agree with the others, tell him/her to
stick it and go find another doctor!
Arrgh!

Laura H.

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Thu, 13 Nov 2003 19:52:07 +0000

Dear Everyone: Thank you for your responses!!! I
probably should have told my doctor the same things that
you have all said, but because of the past overweight
and low self-esteem, it seems so much easier to be
insulted than to confront. I want you all to know that I
proved her wrong though. Got on the scale this morning
and weighed in at a solid 144 lbs. SO THERE!!! I knew
the 149 lbs was just a temporary gain. My weight-loss
surgeon is ecstatic with my lose. In fact, I was told NOT
to lose anymore weight or I would run into medical
problems from being too thin. If I could get rid of my
stomach apron I would probably drop another 10 pounds
with no problem, but since lose skin is there and
won’t go away, I can’t do much. By the way….I stand
5′4" AND weigh 144 lbs. I don’t think this is an

outrageous amount. I took my measurements this morning and
they are just the same as they were a year ago. I
could never say that BEFORE my surgery. I am still
surprised because I can wear the same clothes I was wearing
last year.

Anyway, for those of you going in
for surgery….Don’t plan to return to work for at
least six weeks. I was three weeks post-op before I
could even think about moving around even the slightest
bit normal. I would say six weeks for a desk job and
eight weeks for other types of jobs. Your body goes
through such a shock that you just CAN’T think of
returning to work before this timeframe.

Take
care…and THANKS!!!! Helen

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Thu, 13 Nov 2003 03:49:45 +0000

Im outraged helen, send this note to your
doctor:
Dear smart ass,
The only thing outrageous is your
lack of knowledge in this area. I didnt know medical
degrees came in cracker jack boxes. Didnt you know that a
woman can vary in her weight by 5 pounds simply becasue
of hormonal/water retention type reasons?
So
aside from a little medical training, why dont you look
into "PR SKILLS" while your at it. If you think that
beating someone down becasue of a weight gain is a way to
motivate them, then your not only stupid, your an ass too.

Love always, Michelle St Claire
(sorry, she had
that coming, and I wasnt there to blast her in person)

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Wed, 12 Nov 2003 22:28:58 +0000

Helen, it sounds like your doctor has some screws
loose here. I went to my yearly GYN checkup a couple
weeks ago. My doctor didn’t know about my surgery, so
when I showed up eighty some pounds lighter, she was
surprised. I told her about the surgery, and she said my
scar looked great. She asked me if I was wanting to
have any more kids, and I was afraid she would tell me
some horror stories about malnurished pregnancies, but
all she said was " the next pregnancy should be much
easier on your body!" I sure hope so! I still have about
40 pounds more to lose, but I’ve come so far, and my
doctor made me feel really good about it. You should
have asked your doctor if she weighs exactly the same
every time she steps on the scale, and when was the
last time she lost more than a hundred pounds?

By: Kathy Lucrecia

Kathy Lucrecia — Wed, 12 Nov 2003 16:12:34 +0000

Helen,
Tell your doctor to "stick it" his/her
bedside manner is HORRIBLE and they would definately
benefit from some added training available at most
medical schools! I used to be a standardized patient
dealing with the training of current and future
doctors… and your needs some work! How tall are you? What
does your surgery doctor think? Maybe this doctor
needs to learn that we all don’t fit the "Metropolitan
Life Height/Weight" scale and that some of us need to
find our own balance which is something that you HAVE
done… so to Helen’s doc and huge Brick binkie for your
inconsideration and lack of sensitivity… maybe a nice gift of a
"Sensitivitity in Management" may help…
LOL <smile>
Ok now I have it off my chest too!
Cindy

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Wed, 12 Nov 2003 06:26:36 +0000

Today started out terrible. I packed last night
for our trip to New York City and my 8 year old
climbed in my suitcase and said take me. The rest of the
night he was real clingy. This is my Mr.
Happy Go
Lucky fellow. I woke thinking I can’t go.
When our
oldest son was killed by a drunk driver we were out of
town. So I spent the 1st half of the morning trying not
to cry. I really felt I need to go with my husband,
but I love and cherish my children so. Well to top it
off we have an all day field trip. To make a long
story short my friends at school all promise they would
watch out
for my 3, I was convincing myself
everything would be all right and I get called to the office
for phone call. It was my dr. office and I had been
approved!!!!! My girlfriend told me it was a sign
all would

be well. So I’m walking on cloud 9,but please
remember me in prayer especially tomorrow.
Helen your
doctor is a jerk. You don’t know how much you have
helped and encouraged me. You are to a lot of us such a
role model and inspiration!!! Teach, I’m like you on
setting date. Having a substitute is worse than missing.
I teach 2nd. Talk to ya, when I get back!!! Barbie

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Wed, 12 Nov 2003 01:05:48 +0000

Hi Helen, I really do believe you need a new
doctor. I wonder why she would treat you this way when
you have tried so hard to keep the weight off. You
keep up the good work. I don’t care what your doctor
says I am proud for your accomplishment and I can’t
wait until I reach that point too. I always look
forward to reading your postings because they are
encouraging. You take care. Sincerely Carol(kittykat)

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Tue, 11 Nov 2003 14:24:14 +0000

I wonder if these people ever figure in the fact
that we gain "a little" weight through out the day and
always weigh less in the morning. My appointment wasn’t
until 2 p.m. and I had eaten not only breakfast but
lunch too. They probably didn’t take into consideration
that I had to pee like a race horse because I knew
they would want a urine sample and I didn’t dare go. I
probably peed off two pounds after weigh-in. My husband is
really disgusted too. He says, "Where could you possibly
lose more weight from." "There’s nothing there now!"
God Bless him….he is my rock. I wished for years
and years all I would have had to face was losing 3-4
pounds. Something that small is hardly insurmountable
(sp?). I went from one doctor that told me just to diet
and walk five miles a day to another doctor that

obsesses over 3 pounds. Just doesn’t seem
fair.

Thanks for listening…Helen in New York

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Tue, 11 Nov 2003 09:03:27 +0000

Sweetie, you need to find a new doctor. There is
no way I would put up with that from my doctor.
ESPECIALLY having gone through all you have gone through to
lose that weight. You may have been with your doc for
a while, but there is NO excuse for her to say that
to you. Had she not noticed the 100 pounds missing
from your body? Good gracious!
Sometimes it’s hard
to give up the security of a doctor we have been
with for years, but in this situation it seems the
necessary thing to do. Your emotional health is at risk.
Take care of you, Girl!