Comments on: First consultation in two weeks

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Sun, 28 Mar 2004 11:52:11 +0000

Hi Doug! I’m 25, 6′ and about 500 lbs. I have,
after many months of research, decided to have the
surgery myself. I have started the process and was quite
nervous about the whole thing as well. I had a chance to
speak with the surgeon who will be doing the operation
(when it’s scheduled) and that did a lot in calming
come of my fears.

I would suggest to you to
take the first step and contact the surgeon of your
choice. I know that once I did the nervous feeling went
away, but I doubt I will ever stop being excited and a
bit scared about this whole adventure until well
after it is over!

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Fri, 26 Mar 2004 11:45:05 +0000

That can be a problem. I was pretty active until
this summer when it all caught up with me.
To the
ones who aren’t close friends I make a joke about it,
"I needed a vacation", "I had nothing better to do,
so I signed up for major surgery", my personal
favorite "So I lose enough weight to whup your a** even
more than I do now!"
To my close friends I tell
them -There is a 100%chance of my having serious
problems(diabetes,high blood pressure,arthrits type problems,joint
degeneration,stroke) as I get older, and a 10-20% chance of problems
with the surgery. I need this."
These are some
lines. Bottom line is, its your life, it would be nice
if they understood now, but believe me,once you lose
the weight, then they will definitely see the
light!(you won’t be blocking it! :-)LOL
I educate those

who ask,and some people –just let it go-they aren’t
worth the aggravation.

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Fri, 26 Mar 2004 01:03:30 +0000

thanks for supporting me. You know, I’m sure I’m
not alone in this, I never let my weight keep me from
doing anything. I still play softball and ride my atv,
and go out all the time. Sure it is uncomfortable in
theaters, and I dont eat in reasturants with booths for
seating, but I really dont let the obesity slow me down.
(MUCH) I think thats why alot of my friends are not sure
what to think about my decision. They dont see my
pain, or know that I feel like a big fat turd
(sometimes). How do I convince people, who dont see me as
unhealthy, that I’m afraid of not living a full life? Some
of them dont seem to get it.

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Thu, 25 Mar 2004 03:40:21 +0000

Hi Doug, I too am waiting for gastric bypass
surgery in the uk , I joined the waiting list in
september 1999 and am due to have the surgery in the
spring/summer of 2002. If you would like to chat more you can
email me (see my
profile).

regards

truebluebonita

By: Neva Marjory

Neva Marjory — Wed, 24 Mar 2004 22:19:34 +0000

Hi Doug,

Welcome!!!! Let me tell you it
took me 3 1/2 years to make up my mind about surgery
so I know how you feel. I have some websites that
might help and will be happy to correspond with you and
answer any questions you might have.

My 1 year
anniversary with WLS was 12/14/2000. I have lost 135 lbs went
from a size 24/26 to a 10/12. I have gained my life
back.

Websites
are

www.asbs.org
www.surgeryforobesity.com
if you go to
thriveonline they have an article on
the surgery.

Again if I can be of help please
let me know. I correspond with many people about the
surgery and am glad to help.

Phyliss