Comments on: Getting a Little Angry http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:48:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Neva Marjory http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/#comment-1880 Neva Marjory Tue, 16 Nov 2004 22:58:18 +0000 http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/#comment-1880 Thanks for your support, guys. I just feel like even if I do get the surgery now, it's tainted. That my decision, although good for me, has let down everyone else. ugh. I think I just need to move ;) Thanks for your support, guys. I just feel like even if I do get the
surgery now, it’s tainted. That my decision, although good for me,
has let down everyone else. ugh. I think I just need to move ;)

]]> By: Wes Evelia http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/#comment-1879 Wes Evelia Tue, 16 Nov 2004 16:38:57 +0000 http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/#comment-1879 It can be so hard to press on in your wls journey when you don't have the support of the people who mean the most to you. You will probably have to come to a point where you can tell your dad how much you love him and respect him but that this is your decision and he either needs to accept and support you or at least respect you enough to realize that he's said his peace and it's time to put a cork in it. I had a very dear friend who was so against me having wls that she actually refused to call me in the hospital after my surgery. She got kinda mean about it to be honest. I was hurt so deeply. It's several months later now and she did eventually come around but until she did, it hurt so much. I hope you can find the strength to press on and do what you know in your heart is right for YOU. This surgery has changed my life dramatically and now those who were opposed see the changes in me and are finally supportive. :) My father is dead set against me having RNY. He wants to me go on the Paleo diet...has anyone else done this? It's kind of like a <!--more--> super-crazy Aitkins diet, all lean meat, fruits and veggies. No dairy, grains, or preservatives. I'm just upset that I have to make some "last ditch effort". My heart isn't in this, I've tried the Aitkins diet already. At what point is it acceptable for someone to say, "hello, I've tried all of this and look at me. Obviously isn't working. Do I have your permission to go onto something else?" Shoot, the definition of insanity is when you keep trying the same thing and expecting a different result! It can be so hard to press on in your wls journey when you don’t have the
support of the people who mean the most to you. You will probably have to come
to a point where you can tell your dad how much you love him and respect him but
that this is your decision and he either needs to accept and support you or at
least respect you enough to realize that he’s said his peace and it’s time to
put a cork in it. I had a very dear friend who was so against me having wls
that she actually refused to call me in the hospital after my surgery. She got
kinda mean about it to be honest. I was hurt so deeply. It’s several months
later now and she did eventually come around but until she did, it hurt so much.
I hope you can find the strength to press on and do what you know in your heart
is right for YOU. This surgery has changed my life dramatically and now those
who were opposed see the changes in me and are finally supportive. :)
My father is dead set against me having RNY. He wants to me go on
the Paleo diet…has anyone else done this? It’s kind of like a

super-crazy Aitkins diet, all lean meat, fruits and veggies. No
dairy, grains, or preservatives. I’m just upset that I have to make
some "last ditch effort". My heart isn’t in this, I’ve tried the
Aitkins diet already. At what point is it acceptable for someone to
say, "hello, I’ve tried all of this and look at me. Obviously isn’t
working. Do I have your permission to go onto something else?"

Shoot, the definition of insanity is when you keep trying the same
thing and expecting a different result!

]]> By: Neva Marjory http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/#comment-1877 Neva Marjory Tue, 16 Nov 2004 06:55:56 +0000 http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/15/getting-a-little-angry/#comment-1877 First off ... you do not have to 'make some "last ditch effort" ' unless YOU feel it is necessary. Even if you lose weight on this diet the odds are STACKED against you maintaining that weight loss - and yoyo dieting is detrimental to your health. Several people encouraged me just to try again ... try harder ... not to take this drastic step ... blah blah blah. Well ... I had the surgery 11/28/01. My pre-op weight was 297 and today I weigh 231 - this is my lowest weight, after many struggles with various diets, in 10 years. These 66 pounds are gone forever ... not like diets of the past where the weight returns when you tire of the diet. AND the weight is still coming off with little effort on my part ... just follow the rules of the pouch. Good luck - I just bet he will come and visit you in the hospital. Donna First off … you do not have to ‘make some "last ditch effort" ‘
unless YOU feel it is necessary. Even if you lose weight on this
diet the odds are STACKED against you maintaining that weight loss -
and yoyo dieting is detrimental to your health. Several people
encouraged me just to try again … try harder … not to take this
drastic step … blah blah blah. Well … I had the surgery
11/28/01. My pre-op weight was 297 and today I weigh 231 - this is
my lowest weight, after many struggles with various diets, in 10
years. These 66 pounds are gone forever … not like diets of the
past where the weight returns when you tire of the diet. AND the
weight is still coming off with little effort on my part … just
follow the rules of the pouch. Good luck - I just bet he will come
and visit you in the hospital. Donna

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