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I am a lurker here since the special on 20/20 (so not for very long),
I havn’t discussed this with my father or sister due to the fact that
I know waht they will have the same reaction as you, I wanted to let
you know that even though I will probably not have the support from my
family and even some friends that this surgery will help me get backa
life that I lived but never got to enjoy. I do not want to set on the
sidelines anymore I want to be out int he world (exploring) but due to
the extreme embarassment that I had in Jan 2001 (first ime on a plane
in 2 years and I was able to sit without a seat belt extension) when I
had to ask fo rthe seat belt extension (twice because of the thin
attendant "didn’t" hear me), I was mortified and since then have not
travelled or tried to plan a trip mainly due to this reason (finances
being the other)…….I hope that you do read this and feel that what
others say/do can not effect YOUR decision on your health and
enjoyment of life to the fullest.
Jennifer
November 18th, 2004 at 8:44 pm
Jennifer-
Thank you so much for the support. This last Saturday I went to a
wedding with my loving (and very understanding) boyfriend. When we
got home, I just crawled into bed and cried. It isn’t just that I
felt huge at the wedding (where the bride was a petite blonde), but
this whole decision-making process has resurfaced every hurt or
negative feeling I have ever had about my weight. I know you guys
all know what I’m talking about. Dealing with all of that, making
the decision and then my family on top of it, I felt like I was
losing my mind.
The good news, is that a friend of mine suggested I do a pro and
con list, I told her I already had regarding the surgery. Her
response was, "Yes, but did you look at just the medical reasons, or
did you also explore the emotional?" I had never thought of that.
So, last night I did my revised pro and con list. Two things became
very apparent
1. There are more pros than cons.
2. The majority of my cons, with the exception of three (which can
be settled after a chat with the surgeon), dealt with my fears of
being perceived as stupid or weak for making my choice or of
disappointing my family. They dealt with other people’s baggage, NOT
mine.
Of course, we all know that this decision is a very personal
choice, and one that I can’t make because of what others may do or
say. So, if nothing else, the exercise helped me to reaffirm my
decision. I hope this might help any of you out there who may have
doubts-make sure they are YOURS and not someone else’s.
Starting to feel a little better even though my loved ones
are "pissing in my cornflakes",
Robin