Comments on: rratio PLease read http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/18/rratio-please-read/ Sun, 12 Oct 2008 06:53:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Neva Marjory http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/18/rratio-please-read/#comment-1883 Neva Marjory Thu, 18 Nov 2004 17:44:36 +0000 http://www.obesity-surgery.bseulf.org/2004/11/18/rratio-please-read/#comment-1883 Jennifer- Thank you so much for the support. This last Saturday I went to a wedding with my loving (and very understanding) boyfriend. When we got home, I just crawled into bed and cried. It isn't just that I felt huge at the wedding (where the bride was a petite blonde), but this whole decision-making process has resurfaced every hurt or negative feeling I have ever had about my weight. I know you guys all know what I'm talking about. Dealing with all of that, making the decision and then my family on top of it, I felt like I was losing my mind. The good news, is that a friend of mine suggested I do a pro and con list, I told her I already had regarding the surgery. Her response was, "Yes, but did you look at just the medical reasons, or did you also explore the emotional?" I had never thought of that. So, last night I did my revised pro and con list. Two things became <!--more--> very apparent 1. There are more pros than cons. 2. The majority of my cons, with the exception of three (which can be settled after a chat with the surgeon), dealt with my fears of being perceived as stupid or weak for making my choice or of disappointing my family. They dealt with other people's baggage, NOT mine. Of course, we all know that this decision is a very personal choice, and one that I can't make because of what others may do or say. So, if nothing else, the exercise helped me to reaffirm my decision. I hope this might help any of you out there who may have doubts-make sure they are YOURS and not someone else's. Starting to feel a little better even though my loved ones are "pissing in my cornflakes", Robin Jennifer-
Thank you so much for the support. This last Saturday I went to a
wedding with my loving (and very understanding) boyfriend. When we
got home, I just crawled into bed and cried. It isn’t just that I
felt huge at the wedding (where the bride was a petite blonde), but
this whole decision-making process has resurfaced every hurt or
negative feeling I have ever had about my weight. I know you guys
all know what I’m talking about. Dealing with all of that, making
the decision and then my family on top of it, I felt like I was
losing my mind.
The good news, is that a friend of mine suggested I do a pro and
con list, I told her I already had regarding the surgery. Her
response was, "Yes, but did you look at just the medical reasons, or
did you also explore the emotional?" I had never thought of that.
So, last night I did my revised pro and con list. Two things became

very apparent
1. There are more pros than cons.
2. The majority of my cons, with the exception of three (which can
be settled after a chat with the surgeon), dealt with my fears of
being perceived as stupid or weak for making my choice or of
disappointing my family. They dealt with other people’s baggage, NOT
mine.
Of course, we all know that this decision is a very personal
choice, and one that I can’t make because of what others may do or
say. So, if nothing else, the exercise helped me to reaffirm my
decision. I hope this might help any of you out there who may have
doubts-make sure they are YOURS and not someone else’s.

Starting to feel a little better even though my loved ones
are "pissing in my cornflakes",
Robin

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