Divorce rate among post op patients
Karen,
I hope noone has misunderstood my message about the high divorce rate
among people who have had this surgery. I am deeply committed to
my husband and my marriage. I have been through a divorce so I can not
say it is never an option, but I have to say my husband loved me
at 300 lbs before we were married and he loves me just as much now at
463. He, like your spouse, wants me to be happy and healthy and has
been completely supportive of me having this procedure if it is what
I want.
It is a fact that many large women settle for whatever comes along in
the way of men and often find themselves trapped in abusive and
unhealthy relationships(been there done that for 14 years with my
first marriage). Once the weight is lost self esteem increases,
depression often decreases, and women realize they don’t have to
settle for a bad relationship. I think this is the reason, or part of
the reason anyway for the high divorce statistics in the post op
group. I did not mean to minimize the caring and committed
relationships of anyone. I was merely pointing out a frequent result
of this surgery that many people are unaware of. As has been said
before this procedure does not fix the emotional problems that many
overweight people suffer from and it certainly won’t make a bad
marriage a good one.
Only Rebecca knows if postponing her surgery is the right thing for
her and her family. Those of us with supportive mates are truly
blessed. Good luck to everyone.
Kat