Hey Everyone!!!
Hey Everyone!
I just had my surgery on June 7th. So far, it’s been going great!
I’m losing a lot of weight so far. Even the binder is getting too
big for me. My skin is hanging already. My clothes are starting to
get bigger for me too. I get my staples out this coming Wednesday.
I haven’t been having any pain at all so far. I’ve been walking a
lot. The only thing that’s happening is that my senses are starting
to get sensetive to certain smells of foods. My parents don’t have
to lose weight, so they eat a lot of fried foods. And when I smell
the oils from the fried foods, I get kinda nauseaus. I don’t puke,
Thank God! When they eat dinner I usually go for a walk.
But then also what I think it is that, sometimes during my meals I
forget to eat slow. It’s just so little meals, and it’s hard to eat
slow. Because in the past, I used to eat fast. Especially when
certain foods taste good, or I just wanted to get it over and done
with.
Has anyone else dealt with the same problem.
Tiffany
January 27th, 2005 at 7:51 am
Tiffany,
The smell of food cooking and some cleaning chemicals made me really sick for
the 1st 3 weeks….then all of a sudden, I was fine. I too was a very fast
eater…I am 6 weeks post-op and I have to make myself eat really slowly put
down my fork in between bites, wait until I completely swallow the food
before I pick the fork up again….even if I am eating cheese and crackers, I
put it down in between bites.
Sharon
May 26th, 2005 at 2:30 am
Hey Everyone! My name is Tiffany, I’m 22, and I had the Roux-NY
Gastric Bypass Surgery on June 7th of this year. The highest weight
I’ve been was 550 lbs. During that time, I was so bored, alone, &
depressed - I was hardly able to move and wasn’t able to do
anything. And I was using food as a comfort zone. That was back in
August 2001 and in the past.
In 10 months before the surgery, I’ve lost over 100 lbs., the natural
way. By being on a 800 cal. diet, and keeping active and exercising.
I went in for surgery at 397 lbs. Now I’m down to 315 lbs!!! And I
feel so great! I’m able to walk and move around much better, and get
out more than I’ve ever been
I realized that eating so much food and binging on food is just not
the answer. The only thing is, now that I’ve had the surgery, I’ve
been having such a rough time dealing with my food withdrawls, food
temptations, etc. Even though I’ve lost so much weight so far, my
old food cravings have been really kicking in. It’s just hard
dealing with life’s problems when I can no longer use food for
comfort. I get so depressed, and hardly have ANY energy throughout
the days.
I’ve even experienced the dumping syndrome, and have thrown up a
couple times. No one knows about any of this tho’. I have a feeling
that my small stomache has extended. Because with the little amounts
of food I eat now, sometimes, I still get hungry.
My weight has been a big issue with my family. It’s so hard, because
they’re skinney, so they don’t have to lose weight. It makes it even
harder to deal with my food temptations and withdrawls. We’ve even
had fights sometimes because of my weight and my eating.
Lately, I’ve just been eating 2 meals a day. I’m anxious to not eat
at all, because I’m so tired of dealing with all this B.S. I know I
probably can’t do that either. I still do keep active, and exercise
everyday as much as I can.
I’ve been noticing that I’m still losing the weight after all. My
clothes are getting loose on me, and starting to get real big on me.
I go for my next doc’s appt. to see my surgeon on the 30th, and I
don’t want any problems to show up and be noticeable. Because again,
my family doesn’t know about any of this.
I really don’t know what to do! I’ve done so well with my weight
loss, and I certainly don’t want it to be reversed! I’m just so
bored and depressed a lot with different issues in my life. What
should I do???
I need advice on what to do? Has anyone dealt with this same
issue??? If so, what would or do you usually do??
Thank you VERY much!!!
~~~Tiffany~~~
May 26th, 2005 at 8:00 am
Hi Tiffany, I totally understand about the cravings and having hunger back
again. the only thing I can recommend is you try to eat 5-6 small meals if you
are able to a day and remember that cravings are just head hunger. We had
surgery, that was the physical part, but it is up to us to deal with the mental
part. And that happens to be harder than the surgery. Hang in there, up your
meals, or have a meal, then a protien shake, then a meal, then a shake,,,like
that and space them a couple hours apart. I am surprised your family isn’t
happy with your success, even though they don’t know about the surgery, they
should be happy w/the weight loss if that’s what they griped about. If you ate
an hour ago and get those cravings,,,get some water, that helps me deal with
the cravings, cause I am really not hungry and it helps me get in the water I
need. i wish you the best, email me if you wanna talk.
ljgyrl wrote:Hey Everyone! My name is Tiffany, I’m 22, and I had the Roux-NY
Gastric Bypass Surgery on June 7th of this year. The highest weight
I’ve been was 550 lbs. During that time, I was so bored, alone, &
depressed - I was hardly able to move and wasn’t able to do
anything. And I was using food as a comfort zone. That was back in
August 2001 and in the past.
In 10 months before the surgery, I’ve lost over 100 lbs., the natural
way. By being on a 800 cal. diet, and keeping active and exercising.
I went in for surgery at 397 lbs. Now I’m down to 315 lbs!!! And I
feel so great! I’m able to walk and move around much better, and get
out more than I’ve ever been
I realized that eating so much food and binging on food is just not
the answer. The only thing is, now that I’ve had the surgery, I’ve
been having such a rough time dealing with my food withdrawls, food
temptations, etc. Even though I’ve lost so much weight so far, my
old food cravings have been really kicking in. It’s just hard
dealing with life’s problems when I can no longer use food for
comfort. I get so depressed, and hardly have ANY energy throughout
the days.
I’ve even experienced the dumping syndrome, and have thrown up a
couple times. No one knows about any of this tho’. I have a feeling
that my small stomache has extended. Because with the little amounts
of food I eat now, sometimes, I still get hungry.
My weight has been a big issue with my family. It’s so hard, because
they’re skinney, so they don’t have to lose weight. It makes it even
harder to deal with my food temptations and withdrawls. We’ve even
had fights sometimes because of my weight and my eating.
Lately, I’ve just been eating 2 meals a day. I’m anxious to not eat
at all, because I’m so tired of dealing with all this B.S. I know I
probably can’t do that either. I still do keep active, and exercise
everyday as much as I can.
I’ve been noticing that I’m still losing the weight after all. My
clothes are getting loose on me, and starting to get real big on me.
I go for my next doc’s appt. to see my surgeon on the 30th, and I
don’t want any problems to show up and be noticeable. Because again,
my family doesn’t know about any of this.
I really don’t know what to do! I’ve done so well with my weight
loss, and I certainly don’t want it to be reversed! I’m just so
bored and depressed a lot with different issues in my life. What
should I do???
I need advice on what to do? Has anyone dealt with this same
issue??? If so, what would or do you usually do??
Thank you VERY much!!!
~~~Tiffany~~~
May 26th, 2005 at 1:12 pm
Thanx so much Stacey for your advice!
My family DOES know about my surgery and weight loss. They don’t
know about me experiencing the dumping syndrome and me throwing up.
I didn’t tell them, because of them expecting so much from me with my
weight loss.
But I’ll keep you advice in mind. Thanks!
~~~Tiff~~~
May 27th, 2005 at 10:00 pm
Tiffany,
My name is Kelley and I’m new here too. Mostly just a lurker, reading all the
posts but my heart went out to you. I’m 35 and weigh 300 lbs. I have always
been heavy and I too use food as a comfort device. I’m just starting my journey
towards WLS, trying to get my employer to reverse their refusal to pay. I know
I have a long road ahead of me.
Do I understand you to mean that your family doesn’t know you had the surgery?
What an ordeal to go at alone. I somewhat know where you’re coming from since
no one but my husband knows this has even been an idea in my head but I am
planning on telling my parents at Thanksgiving.
Let me cut to the chase. Tiffany, go see a counselor. You need to find someone
who will let you talk, without being biased. Someone who will listen and is non
judgmental. It doesn’t sound like you have any support people in your family
but you need SOMEONE to vent to and someone who can help you learn to deal with
temptations and feelings of possible failure. You did this because you knew you
were unhealthy and I hope you did it only because YOU wanted to…not to get
your family off your back or to impress someone. I know what a hard battle
losing weight is and heaven knows I know all about temptations and
cravings…but with determination you can beat this. Your surgery was a tool to
help you with your over all health…it doesn’t solve any or all your problems.
You sound like a very bright girl who has been fighting all you life to be what
your family thinks you should be. Depression often happens after this surgery
from what I’ve read. Talk with your medical doctor about this but please please
please don’t lose faith in yourself and your ability to do what you are working
so hard at. I’ve been to counseling in the past and it was a god send…I had
no idea how bad I needed it until I got it. Good luck to you and your journey.
Kelley
Kelley
May 28th, 2005 at 1:19 pm
Thanx Kelley for your post. My family does know that I had this
surgery. In fact, it seems as if everyone knows about it. My family
just expects so much from me, as far as my weight and everything
else. Like, today, I just weighed myself, and I’ve lost 5 lbs. I
went from 314 down to 309 lbs. My mom was happy about it, my dad was
too. It’s just that my dad expected more. Because in the beginning
it was like I was losing 10 lbs. a week, or 2 weeks. This time, I
only lost 5 lbs. At least I’ve lost some weight. They should at
least be happy for that. I really hate it when that happens! They
don’t realize how hard it is to lose the weight.
All they expect for me, is to lose this weight. Sometimes, it seems
they don’t even care how I’m feeling. I hardly get to enjoy myself
or have fun, and enjoy life. Because I’ve been so tired and
depressed since I’ve been going through all this. This is certainly
not an easy task!
Does your family do the same thing to you sometimes?
Again, thanx so much Kelley!
~~~Tiff~~~
May 28th, 2005 at 7:23 pm
Tiffany,
Unfortuantely parents will be parents…yes, my mom is unruley at times. She
used to always tell me "you have such a pretty face, if you would just loose the
weight you would be beautiful". One day my aunt (her sister) told her to
hush…said I was beautiful no matter what. But she still keeps on. My mom has
gained some weight as she got older (she’s 56) but only about 30-40 pounds
overweight so I don’t think she will ever understand what it’s like to have
twice the body you should and it is not as easy as just "watching what you eat
and exercise a little". Please, if it were that easy doesn’t she think I would
have done that already?
I’m glad your family knows about the surgery. I saw where someone else
suggested a support group. Some of the programs I’m looking at offer (in fact
encourage) family and friends to participate. But please know what a fantastic
job you’ve done already. I’ve heard people say that the weight loss does slow
down after a while but usually picks back up if you take in your water. Also, if
you’re more active and possibly building muscle, you will see inches go but not
necessarily a lot of numbers go down on the scale. Muscle weighs more than
fat…but don’t get weighed down by the numbers. Pay attention to your body.
I still contend that some therapy would be helpful for you. Depression is a
hard thing that a lot of people don’t understand. My husband has it and we went
through some tough times but with support, talking and meds, he feels much
better. I learned a lot about it too.
I’ll tell you another secret…the more my mom (or anyone for that matter) harps
about my weight, the more I tend to eat. That’s a problem I have to deal with
in my head. I don’t do it on a conscious level but I notice I have a tendency
to binge when I get my feelings hurt or someone steps on my toes about
something. Don’t know if some of your temptations and cravings maybe stem from
you feeling like you’re not doing as good as you should. BUT YOU’RE DOING A
WONDERFUL JOB!!! Keep it up girl, I envy you right now. You are doing this for
you and you are the only one that matters.
ljgyrl wrote:Thanx Kelley for your post. My family does know that I had this
surgery. In fact, it seems as if everyone knows about it. My family
just expects so much from me, as far as my weight and everything
else. Like, today, I just weighed myself, and I’ve lost 5 lbs. I
went from 314 down to 309 lbs. My mom was happy about it, my dad was
too. It’s just that my dad expected more. Because in the beginning
it was like I was losing 10 lbs. a week, or 2 weeks. This time, I
only lost 5 lbs. At least I’ve lost some weight. They should at
least be happy for that. I really hate it when that happens! They
don’t realize how hard it is to lose the weight.
All they expect for me, is to lose this weight. Sometimes, it seems
they don’t even care how I’m feeling. I hardly get to enjoy myself
or have fun, and enjoy life. Because I’ve been so tired and
depressed since I’ve been going through all this. This is certainly
not an easy task!
Does your family do the same thing to you sometimes?
Again, thanx so much Kelley!
~~~Tiff~~~
Kelley
May 29th, 2005 at 11:47 am
All they expect for me, is to lose this weight. Sometimes, it seems
they don’t even care how I’m feeling. I hardly get to enjoy myself
or have fun, and enjoy life. Because I’ve been so tired and
depressed since I’ve been going through all this. This is certainly
not an easy task!
Does your family do the same thing to you sometimes?
Again, thanx so much Kelley!
~~~Tiff~~~