It Seems I Can’t Go Any Further With The Surgery/Diet…..What Shoul
Hey Everyone!
I have quite a bit of a problem here. Even though I’ve done so well
in the beginning post-op, it seems now that it’s getting harder and
harder. I’ve went from 397 down to 307 lbs. Now I’ve hit a
plateau. I’ve been really bored, depressed, and pretty angry about
life’s issues as well. I’ve experienced the dumping syndrome a few
times already. And I think my stomache has expanded. I’m afraid
I’ll be going back to my old eating habbits again.
Sometimes, I feel I should just get the surgery reversed, but then
I’m willing to just try again. My parents don’t know about me
experiencing the dumping syndrome, nobody knows.
I’m stuck home most of the time with nothing to do, bored &
depressed, and no energy whatsoever. It seems like no one gives a
d@mn! All they expect me to do is lose this weight. They go off and
do their own thing, having a good time with themselves, etc. Plus,
my weight problem has been a pretty big issue in my life. But they
don’t have a weight problem at all, which makes it even harder
because of the food they eat.
I want to continue with the surgery, and have it to be a success,
continue losing weight. But it’s so damn hard! What should I do???
Tiffany
June 9th, 2005 at 11:44 pm
Tiffany,
It is not uncommon for weight loss to slow, and for plateaus to come,
even with the surgery. You’ve got about a year or a year and a half, if
you’re lucky, to make a big dent in your weight, but you will have to
tough it out from there.
If you’re dumping, you’re eating sugars. Sugars will slow your weight
loss and make you hungrier. When I put sugars back in my diet, I find
myself grazing all day long. You’ve got to treat sugars like an
alcoholic treats booze. It’s not something you have to eat in order to
live, you could live the rest of your life and never have another
sweet, and be healthier for it. All kinds of diseases got better during
the world wars when sugar was rationed. Are you eating your protein
first? Are you supplementing with protein shakes? When you do that, it
can help calm the cravings.
You need a local support group. I gather there isn’t one around. You
haven’t got anyone you can talk to, and it appears that you’ve chosen
not to bring your parents or family into the minute details of this
major life-change you’re going through. That’s your decision to make,
some of our families *don’t* understand. But have you talked with them
about how you feel left out? Have you considered getting some
counseling? A lot of us have had it, because we know we’ve got
unresolved issues around food and family. If your family only
associates around food, then I’m not sure if you’d want to be included
in <G>. But seriously, getting some counseling might help, if only to
give yourself someone to talk to that is non-judgmental and supportive.
Why in the name of heavens would you want the surgery reversed? What
purpose would it serve? I know of only one person who had her surgery
reversed - I’m sure there are others who do it for medical reasons, but
she had it reversed because she was totally non-complaint and didn’t
want to get thin. She had GBS originally because she was MO and her
GERD was so bad she was in and out of the hospital with major surgeries.
I don’t anticipate she will have a long life, and feel really sorry for
her parents. She’s in her 20’s - an extremely talented girl.
Now, I’ve heard of "jump start" diets, that will get us back on track
again - some docs have them. Maybe someone on the list here has one, or
maybe there’s one in the files section, I haven’t looked. But that’s
an option for you. It’s awful to be stuck at home, but do you read? Can
you get library books? I’d LOVE to be stuck at home with a houseful of
library books, but that’s me, not you.
Best wishes,
Pam in Niceville
Hey Everyone!
I have quite a bit of a problem here. Even though I’ve done so well
in the beginning post-op, it seems now that it’s getting harder and
harder. I’ve went from 397 down to 307 lbs. Now I’ve hit a
plateau. I’ve been really bored, depressed, and pretty angry about
life’s issues as well. I’ve experienced the dumping syndrome a few
times already. And I think my stomache has expanded. I’m afraid
I’ll be going back to my old eating habbits again.
Sometimes, I feel I should just get the surgery reversed, but then
I’m willing to just try again. My parents don’t know about me
experiencing the dumping syndrome, nobody knows.
I’m stuck home most of the time with nothing to do, bored &
depressed, and no energy whatsoever. It seems like no one gives a
d@mn! All they expect me to do is lose this weight. They go off and
do their own thing, having a good time with themselves, etc. Plus,
my weight problem has been a pretty big issue in my life. But they
don’t have a weight problem at all, which makes it even harder
because of the food they eat.
I want to continue with the surgery, and have it to be a success,
continue losing weight. But it’s so damn hard! What should I do???
Tiffany
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June 10th, 2005 at 5:08 am
I have quite a bit of a problem here. Even though I’ve done so well
in the beginning post-op, it seems now that it’s getting harder and
harder. I’ve went from 397 down to 307 lbs. Now I’ve hit a
plateau. I’ve been really bored, depressed, and pretty angry about
life’s issues as well. I’ve experienced the dumping syndrome a few
times already. And I think my stomache has expanded. I’m afraid
I’ll be going back to my old eating habbits again.
Sometimes, I feel I should just get the surgery reversed, but then
I’m willing to just try again. My parents don’t know about me
experiencing the dumping syndrome, nobody knows.
I’m stuck home most of the time with nothing to do, bored &
depressed, and no energy whatsoever. It seems like no one gives a
d@mn! All they expect me to do is lose this weight. They go off and
do their own thing, having a good time with themselves, etc. Plus,
my weight problem has been a pretty big issue in my life. But they
don’t have a weight problem at all, which makes it even harder
because of the food they eat.
I want to continue with the surgery, and have it to be a success,
continue losing weight. But it’s so damn hard! What should I do???
Tiffany
June 10th, 2005 at 8:53 pm
Hello everyone;
I hope everyone is doing well~
I am writing just to throw my two cents in…Dumping
syndrome does not only occur when eating foods that
are not good for us…it also occurs if you eat too
much for the size of your pouch, which is only about 2
ounces. It can also occur if you eat too fast, eat
something that has sugar (esp. sugar), too much fat,
or if you drink with a meal, right before, or right
after. I find that if you don’t drink about half hour
to 45 mins. before and after a meal, it gives your
stomach enough time to digest the food properly. The
last thing you want to do is flush out what little
protein and nutrition your getting too quickly out of
your pouch. If your like me though, a small sip or two
during the meal is sometimes necessary. Just be safe.
I wish you all the best!
Sincerely;
Stacia
June 11th, 2005 at 3:27 am
Hi Tiffany,
…my 2cents worth, too….
Hang in there! You need to be doing something to take your mind off
of you. You need to get out of the house and into life! Have you
tried volunteering anywhere! You are always needed, try hospitals,
nursing care facilities, libraries, elementary schools…etc.
I’ve read others response about counseling and support groups and they
are right! You need someone objective to talk to or someone who has
been throught it all.
again, hang in there! You have gotten lots of good advice!
lori
June 11th, 2005 at 10:31 am
Hello, I an mew to this group as well. I have been reading your posts for a
I am Tina and I am very scared. I
while now, but I just decided to speak.
am in limbo waiting for an answer from my insurance company. I live in NC and
hope to get this surgery before the end of the year. If it is Gods will, of
course. I am very scared I have been through seven or eight major surgeries so
far in the past 10 years, and several minor ones. However this is getting the
best of me. I don’t know if it is my family (they are not supporting my
decision at all) scared I guess. Sometimes people only hear the horror stories
and don’t hear the wonderful ones that changed peoples lives. Besides none of
them are overweight anyway. My husband is very supportive he is as excited as I
was in the beginning. I attended a group meeting in Winston-Salem last month
and the people there were so great. I am still waiting to hear from my
insurance and was wondering if anyone here experienced or is experiencing
FEAR!!! AS MUCH AS ME.
GOD BLESS
Hello everyone;
I hope everyone is doing well~
I am writing just to throw my two cents in…Dumping
syndrome does not only occur when eating foods that
are not good for us…it also occurs if you eat too
much for the size of your pouch, which is only about 2
ounces. It can also occur if you eat too fast, eat
something that has sugar (esp. sugar), too much fat,
or if you drink with a meal, right before, or right
after. I find that if you don’t drink about half hour
to 45 mins. before and after a meal, it gives your
stomach enough time to digest the food properly. The
last thing you want to do is flush out what little
protein and nutrition your getting too quickly out of
your pouch. If your like me though, a small sip or two
during the meal is sometimes necessary. Just be safe.
I wish you all the best!
Sincerely;
Stacia
June 11th, 2005 at 1:10 pm
Hello, I an mew to this group as well. I have been reading your posts
I am Tina and I am
for a while now, but I just decided to speak.
very scared. I am in limbo waiting for an answer from my insurance
company. I live in NC and hope to get this surgery before the end of
the year. If it is Gods will, of course. I am very scared I have been
through seven or eight major surgeries so far in the past 10 years, and
several minor ones. However this is getting the best of me. I don’t
know if it is my family (they are not supporting my decision at all)
scared I guess. Sometimes people only hear the horror stories and don’t
hear the wonderful ones that changed peoples lives. Besides none of
them are overweight anyway. My husband is very supportive he is as
excited as I was in the beginning. I attended a group meeting in
Winston-Salem last month and the people there were so great. I am still
waiting to hear from my insurance and was wondering if anyone here
experienced or is experiencing FEAR!!! AS MUCH AS ME.
GOD BLESS
Hello everyone;
I hope everyone is doing well~
I am writing just to throw my two cents in…Dumping
syndrome does not only occur when eating foods that
are not good for us…it also occurs if you eat too
much for the size of your pouch, which is only about 2
ounces. It can also occur if you eat too fast, eat
something that has sugar (esp. sugar), too much fat,
or if you drink with a meal, right before, or right
after. I find that if you don’t drink about half hour
to 45 mins. before and after a meal, it gives your
stomach enough time to digest the food properly. The
last thing you want to do is flush out what little
protein and nutrition your getting too quickly out of
your pouch. If your like me though, a small sip or two
during the meal is sometimes necessary. Just be safe.
I wish you all the best!
Sincerely;
Stacia
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June 12th, 2005 at 2:33 am
Well, I am afraid that I may not wake up, That something may go wrong I am
diabetic and I don’t heal quickly. I have a diabetic ulcer on my right foot
that has not healed in 3 years. Just the unknown I guess. Thanks though now
that I have said them I am wondering myself why I am afraid? Haha thanks so
much you are great, I didn’t realize trying to figure out why and what the fear
was would help me accept the fact that God is only going to allow what he wants
to happen to actually happen. Thanks so much
Hello, I an mew to this group as well. I have been reading your posts
I am Tina and I am
for a while now, but I just decided to speak.
very scared. I am in limbo waiting for an answer from my insurance
company. I live in NC and hope to get this surgery before the end of
the year. If it is Gods will, of course. I am very scared I have been
through seven or eight major surgeries so far in the past 10 years, and
several minor ones. However this is getting the best of me. I don’t
know if it is my family (they are not supporting my decision at all)
scared I guess. Sometimes people only hear the horror stories and don’t
hear the wonderful ones that changed peoples lives. Besides none of
them are overweight anyway. My husband is very supportive he is as
excited as I was in the beginning. I attended a group meeting in
Winston-Salem last month and the people there were so great. I am still
waiting to hear from my insurance and was wondering if anyone here
experienced or is experiencing FEAR!!! AS MUCH AS ME.
GOD BLESS
Hello everyone;
I hope everyone is doing well~
I am writing just to throw my two cents in…Dumping
syndrome does not only occur when eating foods that
are not good for us…it also occurs if you eat too
much for the size of your pouch, which is only about 2
ounces. It can also occur if you eat too fast, eat
something that has sugar (esp. sugar), too much fat,
or if you drink with a meal, right before, or right
after. I find that if you don’t drink about half hour
to 45 mins. before and after a meal, it gives your
stomach enough time to digest the food properly. The
last thing you want to do is flush out what little
protein and nutrition your getting too quickly out of
your pouch. If your like me though, a small sip or two
during the meal is sometimes necessary. Just be safe.
I wish you all the best!
Sincerely;
Stacia
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June 12th, 2005 at 9:21 am
Sometimes for me, when I’m afraid, it’s sort of generalized, and when I sit down
and actually figure it out, it’s not quite as fearful.
Yep, God will take you in His time, so there’s no worry about that. Re your
healing, as long as the docs know you’re diabetic, they can be watching for any
possible complications. If you’re a type-2, this may well cure your diabetes
<aren’t you glad???>
Most of the people who have had complications from the surgery have either been
very, very sick to start with, or have not taken care of themselves afterwards.
This surgery will demand a commitment - you will have to supplement. Depending
on the type of surgery you may not have to supplement as much as some other, but
you still will need to take some responsibility for your life.
Many thousands and thousands of people have had this surgery, and they’re doing
well. I don’t know what the "failure" rate is, but I think it’s less than 1%.
The odds of you being in that 1% are - what? 99 to 1? <G>
Don’t let people who don’t know about the surgery or who are afraid because they
don’t know anyone else who has done it, or they’re afraid of all surgery in
general, or who are by nature naysayers or pessimistic, don’t let them get you
down. You’re going to meet them, we all have. I listen and thank them for their
concern, and then walk away knowing that I’m going to do what I perceive is
right for me. At least you’ve got your husband’s support, and that’s a biggie,
right there!
Pam in Niceville
June 12th, 2005 at 1:15 pm
Sometimes for me, when I’m afraid, it’s sort of generalized, and when I sit
down and actually figure it out, it’s not quite as fearful.
Yep, God will take you in His time, so there’s no worry about that. Re your
healing, as long as the docs know you’re diabetic, they can be watching for any
possible complications. If you’re a type-2, this may well cure your diabetes
<aren’t you glad???>
Most of the people who have had complications from the surgery have either
been very, very sick to start with, or have not taken care of themselves
afterwards. This surgery will demand a commitment - you will have to
supplement. Depending on the type of surgery you may not have to supplement as
much as some other, but you still will need to take some responsibility for your
life.
Many thousands and thousands of people have had this surgery, and they’re
doing well. I don’t know what the "failure" rate is, but I think it’s less than
1%. The odds of you being in that 1% are - what? 99 to 1? <G>
Don’t let people who don’t know about the surgery or who are afraid because
they don’t know anyone else who has done it, or they’re afraid of all surgery in
general, or who are by nature naysayers or pessimistic, don’t let them get you
down. You’re going to meet them, we all have. I listen and thank them for their
concern, and then walk away knowing that I’m going to do what I perceive is
right for me. At least you’ve got your husband’s support, and that’s a biggie,
right there!
Pam in Niceville