Talking about Embarassment……….
It sure is a pain in the @ss when you live with people who don’t have
to lose weight. They get to have their desired foods and treats, and
not get hell for it at all. My mom put X’s on top of all the foods
and things I can’t eat or use in the kitchen. Talking about
embarassment, eh? Not only that, but she always gets on my case
about my weight, while everyone else enjoys their treats and stuff.
And some of these people have had the surgery as well. They don’t
get $hit for eating the wrong things at all. Only I do.
I guess she thinks, by doing this, it would help me. What do you
think? Does your family do something similar to this to you? If so,
how do you deal with it? Tiff
February 15th, 2006 at 7:55 am
OMG DO WE SHARE A MOM???? I THINK ITS JUST HER WAY OF SHOWING SHE CARES I
KNWO MY MOM IS VERY CONCERNED ABOUT MY WEIGHT AND OH GOD DOES IT PISS ME OFF
WHEN
SHE SAYS YOU CANT HAV ETHIS OR YOU CANT HAV ETHAT… BUT I KNOW THATS HER WAY
OF SHOWING SHES CONCERNED AND CARES
February 15th, 2006 at 9:48 am
Tif,
The one thing I had to do when I decided to go on this journey was to decide
whether I wanted to REALLY lose weight or not. If I wanted to lose weight,
then I needed to do whatever it took, even if I didn’t like it. Part of that
decision meant I would stop looking at the cake everyone else had and start
focusing on what I could have that would make that happen.
I personally think your parents treat you like a little girl. Which is not a
function of losing weight, it’s a function of living at home when you’re an
adult.
I see two issues here. One, have you committed to losing the weight? After
all, the surgery isn’t going to do it for you. You’re going to have to work
at it. I think I’ve seen numerous posts from you where you seem more
focused on what you can’t have rather than what you can have. The second
is - how old are you? Are you able to move out from home?
If you’ve *said* you want the surgery to lose the weight, but are having a
hard time with carbs (and we all do, occasionally), and your parents think
they are helping you, then, consider it a sign (however misguided) of love.
Otherwise, if you’re having no problem staying on the program, it’s a sign
of control, and that’s only going to be taken care of when you’re
emancipated.
It sure is a pain in the @ss when you live with people who don’t have
to lose weight. They get to have their desired foods and treats, and
not get hell for it at all. My mom put X’s on top of all the foods
and things I can’t eat or use in the kitchen. Talking about
embarassment, eh? Not only that, but she always gets on my case
about my weight, while everyone else enjoys their treats and stuff.
And some of these people have had the surgery as well. They don’t
get $hit for eating the wrong things at all. Only I do.
I guess she thinks, by doing this, it would help me. What do you
think? Does your family do something similar to this to you? If so,
how do you deal with it? Tiff
February 16th, 2006 at 10:31 am
Dear Tiff,
I know that it can be irritating at times, but your mother loves you and just
wants you to be the best, beautiful little daughter that you can be…..be
greatful that you have her……I would do anything just to be able to talk to
my Mom again!
Bobbi