Hi. I’m Lucky!!

Hello.

I am here with a question.

How can I be supportive of a loved one who has had GBS and is
dealing with the weight loss and lifestyle changes (the diet and
exercising)? How can I be supportive? I don’t want my loved one to
feel like they can’t express themselves. But they seem to either talk
non-stop about their surgery, or they don’t want to talk about
anything at all.

Is this how it is for people that have had the surgery? Or is there
something else going on with my loved one? And how do I get them to
express it? When I try to ask questions, I get rude looks, rolled
eyes, or mumbled comments. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t even try to

ask questions. But it seems that either way, I’m doing the wrong thing.

HELP!!!

One Response to “Hi. I’m Lucky!!”

  1. Candy Justina Says:

    Hi, momoffour,
    Welcome to the list! It’s hard to know what to tell you what to do,
    since I don’t know specifics. If the loved one has computer access,
    there are a number of good lists on the internet to join for that
    person. including lists of people who are over a year out from the
    surgery - It sounds like the best support you can give is to just
    listen when they want to talk. You might also offer to exercise
    *with* them - say walking, or a gym membership. Otherwise, you can
    come to us if you have general questions -

    I can’t speak for everyone else. I had my surgery, as you can see,
    in November of 02. I live with 2 cats, so there wasn’t a lot to
    talk about <G>.

    There are some general issues we all deal with - some more than

    others - but usually it’s getting our water and exercise in,
    learning to recognize head hunger (and providing some sort of
    substitute for it), and dealing with the changes in our bodies, and
    the changes in the people around us. There are plateaus, and at
    about 18 months to 2 years hunger comes back and we really have to
    watch what we eat. Grazing, particularly grazing sugars, will cause
    us to gain our weight back, even though we will probably never eat a
    huge meal again. (If we can, we need to be checked for something
    like a staple line disruption!) I’m sure there are other things
    that I’ve forgotten, but someone can jump in and add them.

    Good luck!

    Pam in Niceville
    11/20/02, lap rny
    242/137 -below doc’s goal on the way to mine!
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    Hello.

    I am here with a question.

    How can I be supportive of a loved one who has had GBS and is
    dealing with the weight loss and lifestyle changes (the diet and
    exercising)? How can I be supportive? I don’t want my loved one to
    feel like they can’t express themselves. But they seem to either
    talk
    non-stop about their surgery, or they don’t want to talk about
    anything at all.

    Is this how it is for people that have had the surgery? Or is
    there
    something else going on with my loved one? And how do I get them to
    express it? When I try to ask questions, I get rude looks, rolled
    eyes, or mumbled comments. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t even try to
    ask questions. But it seems that either way, I’m doing the wrong
    thing.

    HELP!!!

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